Me, 27 Years Old, Still Can't Use Casual Speech with Store Clerks and Cry. Don't Know When to Switch

I think I could use casual language with a female clerk, but I can't bring myself to change my language depending on the person in private.

If you're able to use polite language, it means you're a decent person, so it's fine as it is.

Honestly, I look down on old guys who use casual language with store clerks.

>>3
So it's okay if they're not store clerks? That makes no sense. It doesn't matter.

>>8
How did you even come to that interpretation? lol

Do you think you're that important? Spending money doesn't make you superior.

>>4
Casual language = acting superior? How much of a loser are you? I'm just trying to be friendly.

Using casual language with store clerks is gross.

You shouldn't use casual language with anyone except family and friends, no matter how old you are.

You must be ugly... lol

I always use polite language with people I don't like.

>>11
That just proves you're immature, so you should stop.

I started by getting used to saying "thank you."

I don't mind if older people use casual language with me. In fact, I think it's more natural.

That's kinda funny.

You don't have to force yourself to change your language.

>>17
Well, I've been getting more and more intimidating, so I want to change my inner self too.

Wow...

It's funny how someone so unnatural talks about being natural.

>>19
It's funny how you can't explain what's unnatural about me.

I can’t use casual language with someone I don’t know in person, regardless of their status.

Trying to be friendly is just pushy. Store clerks don’t want to get chummy with you.

>>23
I'm not trying to get chummy. Stop making assumptions.

>>24
I already said it's a process, are you dumb?

>>25
You're bad at provoking people.

Calling yourself an intimidating old man at 27 is just sad.

This must be how the lower class thinks.

Changing your language depending on the person is just a sign of a bad personality.

>>27
Are you stupid? I said I don't change my language in private. At work, I change it between clients and colleagues.

Pathetic.

Whether they're older or younger, if I'm not close to them, I use polite language.

Using casual language is a good way to gauge if someone has common sense.

>>31
Even if you could gauge it, whether they have common sense or not has nothing to do with you, so it's meaningless. Don't waste your resources.

Just give up already.

Even if someone tells me I can use casual language, I'm so used to polite language that I end up speaking weird Japanese. People who can switch easily are talented.

>>36
That's just because you're an introverted social misfit. You need to get used to it.

If you don't know, just stay as you are. One day, you'll suddenly understand the timing.

>>38
Well, I think it might still be too early. But I really want to shift soon.

It's fine. I'll always stick to polite language with anyone except close friends and family.

But you know, come to think of it, maybe no one wants to talk to you. So staying silent is probably best!

>>41
Well, you do you. Polite language is a hassle, though. It just adds unnecessary words.

>>44
Then how am I supposed to shop? Think a little, lol.

What's wrong with polite language?

Explain logically why you think not saying logical things means a low level.

Feels like a late-blooming case of teenage rebellion.

People who can continue to use polite language without getting arrogant are more decent. I can't understand why you'd want to degrade yourself to the level of those old men who complain and hurl abuse at convenience store clerks.

>>54
Why do you equate casual language with complaints and abuse? That's the first thing you should realize is wrong...

"Arigato gozaimasu!" Somehow, it feels more friendly when it's in broken Japanese.

>>55
Isn't it the element of surprise? Like, imagine there's a super serious, unapproachable student council president. If you end up chatting with them and hit it off, you'd probably fall for them. It's different from hitting it off with someone who seemed friendly from the start.

At what age is it okay to use casual language? On the other hand, using polite language with a 5-year-old would be weird, right?

Always use polite language when you first meet someone. That's basic manners.

Using polite language with someone who's working is normal. I switch to casual language when I'm off-duty, and it makes me seem more put together.

>>60
Huh? So if you're a store clerk, how do you talk to a 5-year-old? If you use polite language there, you'd just seem dumb. The best people are those who can switch depending on the situation, not those who stick to rigid rules.

If the store clerk uses casual language, then I use casual language too.

I've gotten to the point where I can act superior to elementary school kids! I'm 37 this year, by the way.

If they're acquaintances, then it's easy.