My girlfriend of one year just revealed she's a single mom, what should I do?

What the hell is she thinking... Seriously, this is not funny.

You've been dating for a year and didn't notice, that's on you too.

>>2
You wouldn't normally notice unless she gave you some hints.

Break up with her.

>>3
Can I just release her already?

There's no other option but to break up.

>>5
But seriously,
She's good at cooking, moderately sexy,
Looks aren't bad either, she was kinda my ideal.

>>9
Once you know she has someone else's kid, none of that matters.

How old is she?

>>7
I'm 26, she's 23, the kid is 3.

If you can't accept her being a single mother, it won't last.

If it's a daughter, it's fine. Son is a no-go.

>>10
It would be fine if it was a daughter, but it's a boy.
I'd definitely feel murderous.

>>16
Release her.

>>20
Brutal, lol.

You've been dating for a year and didn't know about the kid? That's a pretty shallow relationship. Haven't you been to her place?

It's amazing both that you didn't notice for a year and that she didn't say anything. I was told within a month.

>>18
Apparently, she left the kid with her parents when we went out.

>>18
Did you release her?

>>29
We broke up once, got back together, and then broke up again in the end. She wanted to get married, but I didn't.

Don't do it. I can see you getting arrested in the future.

She said she got pregnant while dating her ex,
and when she told him, he ran away.
So, she's never been married.

>>22
The father is complete trash.
Just release the kid.

23 with a 3-year-old kid?

If you really love her, you should be able to love the kid too.
If the kid being there makes you lose interest, that's the extent of your feelings.

Do you have the capability to take care of both of them?

Met a girl at a city party,
told her I had a girlfriend,
and she said she had a husband and kids.
I was shocked.

>>31
Lol.

>>31
That's heartwarming.

Since she's already a single mom, she could raise your kid too!

If she lied about this for a year, she could be lying about other things too.

>>33
If she hides her kid, she's probably hiding other stuff too.
I can trust someone who prioritizes their kid while dating, though.

>>37
If it's for the kid, she'd say it from the start.
Releasing her is the safe bet.

>>54
She'd choose someone who accepts the kid from the get-go.

I don't care about someone else's kid.

Break up. You can't love someone else's kid.
If you were a chimpanzee, you'd kill it.

>>36
It's not just chimps.
Lions and bears would kill too.

By the way, have you done it raw or finished inside?

>>39
Haven't done it raw yet.

>>56
Worse treatment than her ex, lol.

>>67
That's brutal, lol.

You got to enjoy her, now you have a reason to dump her. Good for you.

You should definitely break up.
Do it immediately.

She probably gathered the courage to tell you after building trust for a year, right?

>>51
What trust? She's just a lying idiot.

She said it was hard to bring up, but
this isn't that kind of level.

>>53
Well, a year is long.
I'd feel like she never trusted me...

Do you absolutely have to raise a kid once you have one?

>>55
That's a wild question, lol.

>>55
That's hilarious.

>>55
That ex-boyfriend is probably you.

>>55
That's kinda funny.

>>55 I like this, I'm gonna use it next time.

It's not about whether it's a landmine, it's about how you deal with it after stepping on it.

You saved the trouble of having a kid yourself, didn't you?

This makes me question her character. Don't do it.

Depends on the reason for the divorce.

If she lied, all the more reason to dump her.

You already know the answer.
Cut her off quickly, it's better for her too.

Even just having a divorce means there's a problem with her character.
And with a kid, she's trash.

>>73
This.
Anyone who's divorced has personality issues without exception.

>>80
I've dated three divorced women,
and they all had terrible personalities.
They deserved to be divorced.

>>99
Is that a brag?

>>149
It's not.
Dating divorced people shows you the worst sides of humanity.
Avoid it if you can.

The fact that she lied about such an important thing for a year makes her completely untrustworthy.

If you didn't notice for a year and she could hide it for a year, just don't.

Dating a guy who'd run away when she got pregnant just shows she's simply not smart.

>>79
And there was a guy dumb enough to not notice for a whole year.

>>90
Lol.

>>90
Stop, lol.

If you forgive this, more issues will come up.
Single moms who aren't widows are landmines.

>>82
More than the single mom issue,
hiding the kid while going on dates that could run late,
that's just too much of a landmine.

>>91
A landmine who prioritizes men over her kid.
She'll probably abuse the kid and cheat too.

>>91
Remember that case from last summer?
A woman left her kid in a car while she went out with a guy and the kid died.
She'll definitely do the same.

Just cut her off.
It's better for both of you.

I knew a woman who kept getting dumped like that and ended up a single mom of five kids.

Keep her until you find a new girlfriend.
Having a girlfriend makes it easier to attract other women.

>>102
You can also use it as a conversation starter.
It's the ultimate card.

Shin-Mama.

>>103
Sounds like a spell from Gash Bell.

You should cut her off quickly.
Hiding something that important for a year is a no-go.

Normal single moms know they have to prioritize their kids, so they say it early.
She hid it because she wanted to have fun.

>>110
If you care about her, point this out and tell her she's wrong, then break up.
If you don't care, just fade out.

Don't do it.
I knew a family in the same situation; the stepdad ended up abusing the kid, they divorced, and the kid turned delinquent.
He didn't go to juvie, but who knows what happened to him now.

My cousin also had a shotgun wedding and became a single mom within a year.
She said it was really hard since her other siblings had happy marriages.

Anyone saying it's okay if it's a daughter, stop.
Single moms with daughters have a friend-like relationship, not a mother-daughter one.

She trusted you enough to think you could love her kid too. Be confident.

>>118
But my trust in her would be zero.

A friend of mine got married under the same circumstances but divorced soon after.